Chapter 111: Blame Is Useless; Fighting Back Works

Chapter 111: Blaming Won't Help, Fighting Back Will

Xu Moxing rarely has a victim mentality now. He no longer complains about others bullying him, making snide remarks at him, or treating him badly.

Because of his relationship with Su Lichen, he learned one thing—unless there's a physical or power imbalance, others can only push you around and take advantage if you let them.

Blame doesn't make the city wall taller; only laying bricks yourself does.

Some people substitute action with complaining and avoid responsibility by blaming others.

For example, those who compromise and marry under pressure and then blame their parents for an unhappy marriage—essentially, they cannot take responsibility for their own choices.

They use "my parents are too domineering" to explain their weakness, and "I can't help it" to avoid the fear of making decisions. Their complaints are not really about solving problems, but about rationalizing their refusal to change.

They always see themselves as victims, so they can never stand up for themselves or find a way out.

Because being a victim gives them a perfect excuse—my misfortune is all someone else's fault.

They don't need to change; they only need to keep complaining, so they can stay put with a clear conscience.

This mindset is the same as Xu Moxing once had. Many times, deep down he thought: my unhappiness in life is caused by others, by social injustice. It's not my problem, so I don't need to change or take responsibility.

Moreover, complaining brings sympathy and comfort from others.

"You're so miserable," "Your parents are too much"—these words sound warm, but they actually reinforce his sense of helplessness, yet he still indulges in them.

Change is painful, unknown, and requires courage.

Complaining and blaming others is easy, familiar, and requires no action. Being a victim is much easier than being in control.

If you see yourself as a victim, you become weaker and weaker, and others will keep pushing your boundaries.

Xu Moxing has now worked hard to break free from this mindset, so he complains less. There's nothing to complain about; just get it done.

If in a close relationship, you resist and the other person ignores you and still doesn't respect you, then the relationship only needs to be given up. That is the principle he follows in interpersonal relationships.

Days passed one after another. From the time Xu Moxing recovered his memory and moved out, the two had been separated for seven months.

During the National Day holiday, one of Xu Moxing's good friends from college club—Old Wu—got married. Old Wu had sent Xu Moxing an electronic invitation early in September.

"You and Lichen both chose to be DINK, so no need to prepare any bride price. If you feel embarrassed, just give me a hundred or two hundred as a gift. Otherwise, I won't have a chance to return the favor, which is also embarrassing."

Old Wu was very considerate, mainly because he had made a lot of money and didn't intend to make money from the wedding. He didn't care about the gift money at all.

"Alright, see you then."

The wedding was held in a large hotel in Shenzhen. The hall was beautifully decorated—pink and white balloons, champagne-colored tablecloths, and the stage backdrop was the couple's initials.

On the wedding day, Xu Moxing arrived early and found a seat in the corner. People hadn't arrived yet; the waiters were setting the tableware, clinking.

He took a sip of water, looked at his phone, and chatted with friends on WeChat.

More people gradually arrived. A few people from the college club sat together; Chen Pengfei and Zhou Xu also came.

The seat next to Xu Moxing was empty, left for Su Lichen by default, because in the impression of all their mutual friends, the two had the best relationship.

"Lichen hasn't come yet? Did you two not make plans to come together?" Chen Pengfei asked casually.

Xu Moxing shook his head and said nothing. In fact, he hadn't seen Su Lichen for a long time—about three months. The last time he saw him was when he took care of Little Tabby.

Su Lichen arrived late. He was dressed quite formally—a dark blue suit, with his hair cut short, looking energetic.

Compared with Xu Moxing and others in casual clothes, Su Lichen appeared too formal.

"Hi, long time no see, everyone. I'm so busy, I came late."

Su Lichen greeted everyone generously, scanning the seats. Only the seat next to Xu Moxing was empty.

Chen Pengfei was sitting next to that empty seat and called out to Su Lichen: "Lichen, sit here. We specially saved the seat next to Mo Xing for you."

Su Lichen glanced at Xu Moxing, and Xu Moxing looked back at him, nodding slightly.

Only then did Su Lichen go over and sit down.

Su Lichen and Xu Moxing didn't talk. Su Lichen kept chatting with Chen Pengfei, but no one noticed anything wrong because their expressions were very natural.

Xu Moxing was zoning out. He had just looked at Su Lichen and felt something was off.

There was slight puffiness on his face—not the kind from being fat, but the kind from overwork.

The dark circles under his eyes were darker than the last time they met, but his spirit seemed okay.

Others might not notice, but Xu Moxing, even after being apart for so long, immediately sensed something was wrong.

In the past, when Su Lichen worked overtime and stayed up late, he would look like this the next day. Others would say "You look energetic lately," but only Xu Moxing knew it was abnormal.

Xu Moxing remembered the two weeks he took care of Little Tabby. Su Lichen seemed too busy to even come home.

The room was a mess, clothes piled up everywhere—clearly, it hadn't been cleaned for a long time.

Xu Moxing couldn't stand it, so he couldn't help but water the succulents and toss Su Lichen's clothes into the bedroom.

But he didn't want to put them in the wardrobe; he always felt opening someone else's wardrobe was too intimate.

Later, because Little Tabby was too cute, Xu Moxing, within a week after finishing care, couldn't resist asking Su Lichen for photos of Little Tabby.

That's the charm of cats!

But after a week, he got used to life without the cat, and Little Tabby's appeal was not as strong as at the beginning. So the two gradually lost contact again.

Now seeing Su Lichen's state, Xu Moxing was a bit curious—what was Su Lichen so busy with?

Why did it feel like Su Lichen had been busy for months? He remembered that Su Lichen's job didn't have such long periods of high-intensity workload.

Xu Moxing kept thinking and didn't pay attention to the others' conversation until Su Lichen called him: "Mo, what are you daydreaming about? The bride and groom are coming out."

"Oh, okay."

Xu Moxing snapped back and began to focus on the main characters on stage, playing the part of a proper atmosphere participant.